An old man , a young man and Life’s greatest Lesson- Mitch Albom
This is the most heart touching book I have read after When Breath becomes Air. I picked this book based on the book suggestions given by the Youtuber Rowena Tsai . This book narrates a touching story written by a student (Mitch Albom) on his terminally ill professor who dies at the end of this book. This student-teacher shares a tender bond between them.
After the professor Morrie is diagnosed with terminal disease in his sixtees and his student(who is established journalist and author) comes to know of this, he pays visit to his professor and they agree to meet on every tuesday. Every tuesday they discuss any topic brought by the author and his dear professor imparts his nuggets of wisdom on the topics which ultimately culminated into this book. Our professor Morrie jokingly refers this as their final thesis.
The Journey of Fourteen Tuesdays is narrated as follows –
The First Tuesday We Talk About the World
“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
The Second Tuesday We Talk About Feeling Sorry for Yourself
It would be useful to put a daily limit on self-pity. Just a few tearful minutes, then on with the day.
The Third Tuesday We Talk About Regrets
Everybody has regrets in their life. In this, the professor discussed some of his past regrets which shaped his future self.
The Fourth Tuesday We Talk About Death
“Everyone knows they’re going to die but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently.”
“Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”
The Fifth Tuesday We Talk About Family
“Love each other or perish,”
The Sixth Tuesday We Talk About Emotions
“Learn to detach.”
“You know what the Buddhists say? Don’t cling to things, because everything is impermanent.”
But detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it.”
The Seventh Tuesday We Talk About the Fear of Aging
Aging is not just decay, you know. It’s growth. It’s more than the negative that you’re going to die, it’s also the positive that you understand you’re going to die, and that you live a better life because of it.”
It is impossible for the old not to envy the young. But the issue is to accept who you are and revel in that.
“You have to find what’s good and true and beautiful in your life as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. And, age is not a competitive issue.”
The Eighth Tuesday We Talk About Money
“Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness. I can tell you, as I’m sitting here dying, when you most need it, neither money nor power will give you the feeling you’re looking for, no matter how much of them you have.”
The Ninth Tuesday We Talk About How Love Goes On
Dying man talks to living man, tells him what he should know.
“People haven’t found meaning in their lives, so they’re running all the time looking for it. They think the next car, the next house, the next job. Then they find those things are empty, too, and they keep running.” Once you start running, it’s hard to slow yourself down.Part of the problem, is that everyone is in such a hurry”
The Tenth Tuesday We Talk About Marriage
“There are a few rules to be true about love and marriage:
If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble.
If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble.
If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble.
And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble.
Your values must be alike.
And the biggest one of those values,Your belief in the importance of your marriage.”
The Eleventh Tuesday We Talk About Our Culture
“Invest in the human family. Invest in people. Build a little community of those you love and who love you.”
“People are only mean when they’re threatened and that’s what our culture does. That’s what our economy does.
“Be compassionate And take responsibility for each other. If we only learned those lessons, this world would be so much better a place.”
The Twelfth Tuesday We Talk About Forgiveness
“Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others.”
For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done. You can’t get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened. That doesn’t help you when you get to where I am. Make peace. You need to make peace with yourself and everyone around you.”
The Thirteenth Tuesday We Talk About the Perfect Day
“Make peace with living.”
“It’s natural to die. The fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don’t see ourselves as part of nature. We think because we’re human we’re something above nature. We’re not.
Everything that gets born, dies.”
The Fourteenth Tuesday We Say Good-bye
“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”
The author Mitch Albom has narrated the story in the most heart touching way that I finished the book in one sitting and I could not read the final pages as there were tears welled up in my eyes. This book is a gem. I want you to read this book alone and then reread it with your family as it touches your soul in such a way that you do not know when you start mourning for this kind and compassionate professor Morrie. I highly recommended this book.
Read it to change your perception about aging and mortality and how to bravely accept it just like our beloved Professor Morrie.