You can read numerous Self-Help books, you may like them very much but very few of them can really alter you to make yourselves better. This is one such book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo. This lady has developed KonMari Method to declutter your life and organise everything.
This book changed my perspective to such an extent that I will never look at the clutter the same way that I used to. I will be honest with you that I am not a very organised person and I do not mind my stuff being left here and there. Yes I do suffer because of my nature but I never felt the necessity to change my behaviour. I used to think that people who constantly tidy up their space and organise their life are suffering from Obsessive Cleaning Disorder [OCD] and I used to pride myself that I do not have this disease. But when I read this book I was shattered and my whole core belief system was awakened. I won’t claim I am very clean and clear now but I am improving myself for sure.
The author takes a very pragmatic approach when she says
People cannot change their habits without first changing their way of thinking.
And that’s not easy! After all, it’s quite hard to control what we think.
Usually all the organising tips and tricks suggests that if one is overwhelmed by tidying all at once then one should take it slowly and tidy up one area at a time. Contrast to this Marie Kondo says:
If you tidy up in one shot, rather than little by little, you can dramatically change your mind-set.
If you use the right method and concentrate your efforts on eliminating clutter thoroughly and completely within a short span of time, you’ll see instant results that will empower you to keep your space in order ever after.
It is very novel approach when she teaches us what is tidying ?
Tidying is just a tool, not the final destination. The true goal should be to establish the lifestyle you want most once your house has been put in order.
Putting things away creates the illusion that the clutter problem has been solved
Suggestions Given by Marie Kondo are :
1) Effective tidying involves only two essential actions: discarding and deciding where to store things. Of the two, discarding must come first.
2) All you need to do is take the time to sit down and examine each item you own, decide whether you want to keep or discard it, and then choose where to put what you keep. Do not even think of putting your things away until you have finished the process of discarding.
3) Before you start tidying, look at the lifestyle you aspire to and ask yourself, “Why do I want to tidy?” When you find the answer, you are ready to move on to the next step: examining what you own. We should be choosing what we want to keep, not what we want to get rid of.
4) Take each item in one’s hand and ask: “Does this spark joy?” If it does, keep it. If not, dispose of it.
The best criterion for choosing what to keep and what to discard is whether keeping it will make you happy, whether it will bring you joy. Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest. By doing this, you can reset your life and embark on a new lifestyle.
Her unique KonMari method suggests that one should always think in terms of category and not place. The best sequence according to her is this: clothes first, then books, papers, komono (miscellany), and lastly, mementos.
She has given detailed suggestions how each of these categories should be handled and tackled. You have to read the book to understand her method and trust me her technique works if you put it to practice.
The urge to point out someone else’s failure to tidy is usually a sign that you are neglecting to take care of your own space.
I have often encountered problems to discard stuff. I do not know whether she was reading my mind but I was surprised when she pointed how to deal with it . Her take on this:
Human judgement can be divided into two broad types: intuitive and rational. When it comes to selecting what to discard, it is actually our rational judgement that causes trouble. Although intuitively we know that an object has no attraction for us, our reason raises all kinds of arguments for not discarding it, such as “I might need it later” or “It’s a waste to get rid of it.” These thoughts spin round and round in our mind, making it impossible to let go.
To truly cherish the things that are important to you, you must first discard those that have outlived their purpose.
But when we really delve into the reasons for why we can’t let something go, there are only two: an attachment to the past or a fear for the future.
The question of what you want to own is actually the question of how you want to live your life.
The best way to find out what we really need is to get rid of what we don’t.
But she also says that one should not discard because someone says so but rather her guidance is like this
If you can say without a doubt, “I really like this!” no matter what anyone else says, and if you like yourself for having it, then ignore what other people think.
I sincerely think and believe you should cherish this book in your library and read it and implement it to make yourselves better.